Kuv yuav pab kuv cov me nyuam puag thaum zej zog kev kub ntxhov tshwm sim nyob ib ncig ntawm peb?
Kev Sib Txuas Lus
Tej zaum cov me nyuam yuav raug kev nruj kev tsiv hauv zej zos. Lawv yuav yog ib tug timkhawv, saib TV xov xwm kev pab los yog hnov cov neeg laus thiab/los yog phooj ywg tham txog cov txheej xwm tragic. Cov me nyuam feem ntau tshuav nrog ntau cov lus nug. Txawm tias ib tug me nyuam tsis ncaj qha mus rau ib traumatic kev tshwm sim, nws yuav tsis yooj yim dua rau cov me nyuam xav ntxhov siab vim thiab ntshai li lawv sim to taub li cas cov txheej xwm zej zog tej yam lawv lub neej.
Thaum cov me nyuam tej zaum yuav muaj ntau hom kev tig tau rau lo lus teb rau cov txheej xwm tshwm sim nyob rau hauv lawv lub zej zog thiab thoob lub teb chaws, lawv yuav muaj teeb meem paub txog seb yuav puag nrog lawv tu siab, tsis meej pem thiab npau taws. Muab ib txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog ib tug me nyuam distressed yuav pab kom lawv qhia lawv xav thiab tig tau.
Cov me nyuam nrhiav tau lawv niam thiab txiv thiab cov neeg zov me nyuam kom paub daws tej kev puas siab ntsws. Ntawm no yog ib co kev pab uas cov neeg zov me nyuam yuav txhawb tau lawv tus me nyuam txoj kev xav thiab tsim kom muaj kev ruaj ntseg ntawm kev ruaj ntseg:
- Hauv pem teb. Muab koj tus kheej ob peb feeb kom paub tseeb tias koj nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw kom muaj kev sib tham no.
- Khom: Nres thiab zaum nrog lawv – tsim ib qho twj ywm, nyob ntsiag to ua ke.
- Tig cov xov xwm thiab txwv tej dluab, yeeb yaj duab, thiab lwm yam.
- xyuas kom muaj kev ruaj ntseg. Nco ntsoov qhia koj tus menyuam tias lawv muaj kev ruaj ntseg thiab nws yog koj txoj hauj lwm los tiv thaiv lawv.
- Xyaum ua pa 4-7-8 ua pa ua ke – 4 vib nas this los nqus tau, tuav li 7 vib nas this, exhale rau 8 vib nas this, rov ua pa dua. Piv txwv li.
- Mloog: Nug cov lus nug yooj yim, muaj kev cuam tshuam rau qhov koj hnov.
- Yog koj tus menyuam twb hnov txog los yog pom qhov kev tshwm sim no, koj thov tau cov nram qab no:
- Koj puas paub txog [xwm]?
- Koj xav li cas xwb?
- Koj lub cev puas lawm tias?
- Validate tej kev xav lawv yuav tau coj.
- I.e. "Nws ua rau kev txiav txim zoo tias koj hnov npau taws."
- Yog koj tus menyuam twb hnov txog los yog pom qhov kev tshwm sim no, koj thov tau cov nram qab no:
- Piav txog ib txoj kev uas tsim nyog.
- Rau cov me nyuam qib qis twg uas muaj rov:
- Khaws cov lus piav qhia yooj yim thiab luv luv.
- Reassure of safety ntsuas.
- Rau cov me nyuam loj thiab cov hluas:
- Kho tej misconceptions los yog misinformation tias lawv tau hnov.
- Cia lawv nug thiab teb cov lus nug raws li honestly tau.
- Rau cov me nyuam qib qis twg uas muaj rov:
- tes hauj lwm. Txoj kev xav ntawm trauma yog intensified los ntawm koj tus powerless powerless. Tham txog tej yam uas koj yuav ua tau los ua ib tsev neeg.
- Tsim kom muaj ib lub hom phiaj kev ruaj ntseg.
- Tham seb koj yuav ua li cas yog ib tsev neeg zoo sib xws.
- Yog muaj feem xyuam rau, kawm txog lub tsev kawm ntawv txoj kev nyab xeeb thiab lub tsev kawm ntawv yuav ua li cas kom cov me nyuam kawm ntawv muaj kev ruaj ntseg zoo.
- Siv kev txawj ntse
- Qhia ib zaj dabneeg los yog nyeem ib phau ntawv ua ke.
- Mus taug kev hauv koj lub zos.
- Saib ib tug yees duab tsis-stressful yees duab los yog qhia.
- Ua ib qho yooj yim, yooj yim ua ke.
- Tsim ib co kos duab, txawm tias nws yog yooj yim li xim phau ntawv.
- Tshuab npuas ua ke, nws txhawb sib sib zog nqus pa.
- Xav txog lub zej zog koom tes
- Noj ib muag zaub yuav pab kom txoj kev xav ntawm tswv cuab thiab txo traumatic txoj kev xav.
- Tsim kom muaj ib lub hom phiaj kev ruaj ntseg.
Tswv yim pab cov me nyuam puag nrog zej zog kev kub ntxhov:
- Tig cov xov xwm.
- Nws yuav tsis nco qab txog tias peb cov me nyuam yog mloog thiab absorbing tej tawm los yog sib tham zoj zis nyob ib ncig ntawm lawv.
- Sim thiab tiv thaiv koj cov me nyuam los ntawm tej dluab disturbing los yog piav txog kev ntxhov siab vim yog kev ntxhov siab vim.
- Tham nrog koj cov me nyuam.
- Thaum nws tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tau lim cov lus qhia no, qhov no tsis txhais hais tias yuav tsum tsis txhob muaj lub npe kiag li.
- Cov me nyuam yuav hnov txog cov kev tshwm sim los ntawm ntau qhov chaw xws li tsev kawm ntawv los yog phooj ywg.
- Qhib lub npe thiab qhia rau lawv paub tias lawv yuav tuaj rau koj nrog tej lus nug los yog kev txhawj xeeb.
- Tsim kom muaj kev ruaj ntseg ntawm kev nyab xeeb.
- Ntxhov siab vim muaj ntau tus me nyuam tsis zoo.
- Tsim ib tsev neeg kev nyab xeeb thiab xyuas kom meej tias lawv paub seb lawv yuav nyob twj ywm zoo.
- Ua rau cov qoob loo uas ntxiv twj ywm thiab tsis ntxiv rau koj tus me nyuam tshai.
- Tham nrog tsev kawm ntawv lawv lub hom phiaj thiab npaj koj tus menyuam rau tej yam zoo li shooter drills, hluav taws kub drills, etc.
- Cia peb kawm ntxiv txog qhov no.
- Xav txog tej daim duab, suab paj nruag, lossis sau txog txoj kev xav los pab cov kev tshwm sim.
- Siv daim ntawv qhia txog kev xav txog tej kev tshwm sim.
- Saib xyuas koj tus kheej.
- Thaum lub zej zog ntsoog tshwm sim, nws yog upsetting rau koj ua ib tug neeg laus thiab ib tug niam txiv.
- Nrhiav lwm tus neeg laus tham txog koj txoj kev xav thiab tau txais kev pab los ntawm koj tus kheej.
- Xav txog kev koom tes nrog txoj kev hloov hauv zej zos hloov.
- Nrhiav liab chij ntawm trauma.
- PTSD, ncej traumatic kev nyuaj siab, kuj tshwm sim thaum ib tug me nyuam los yog tus menyuam cov timkhawv ib traumatic kev tshwm sim.
- Nrhiav cov nram qab no:
- Tsis xav mus kawm ntawv
- Tsis txhob muaj ib qhov chaw los yog tus neeg uas yog ib tug reminder ntawm qhov kev trauma
- Npau suav phem
- Flashbacks
- Repetitive ua si ntawm traumatic xwm
- Spacing tawm
- Teeb meem concentrating
- Txhoj puab heev
- bedwetting
- Nrhiav kev pab yog koj ntseeg tias koj tus menyuam tso cov tsos mob ntawm cov tsos mob.
Phau ntawv rau cov me nyuam thiab cov hluas txog kev sib txuas lus
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